tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5262780222421784520.post6158021608058154560..comments2023-07-16T02:00:55.966-07:00Comments on Joy and Sorrow, Intertwined.: Heavy HeartJoyAndSorrowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03923776278331956351noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5262780222421784520.post-39509601553815681932013-02-24T08:14:47.562-08:002013-02-24T08:14:47.562-08:00I got chills reading this, once again having the E...I got chills reading this, once again having the EXACT SAME experience on Monday. Bringing pictures and the birth announcements to the OB, with the juxtaposition of never seeing the OB that delivered Madelyn again and crying my way through my post partum appointment with his partner, who was terrible. Finally getting unadulterated congratulations without a condolence is confusing for some reason. Thinking about how different my life would be with twins and a baby, all 2 under 2. Thinking about my daughter's loss now since her sister isn't here to grow up with her. I am feeling all the same things, so at the very least, we're "normal," right? <br /><br />I meant to email you because I printed out and sent the birth announcement to some family and my therapist (who's like family), and they all cried and wanted me to pass on their congratulations. It's special more so because you are the first twin loss mom I ever connected with. That means so much to me!Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10979137578304223613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5262780222421784520.post-80607862023704722852013-02-23T08:02:06.810-08:002013-02-23T08:02:06.810-08:00I know what you mean. I am frustrated that my mind...I know what you mean. I am frustrated that my mind doesn't quite grasp that we can't have "that life". We can't have "that baby".<br /><br />Hope your darkest days are becoming brighter. I find this stuff ebbs and flows.Lj82https://www.blogger.com/profile/01067562341189588336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5262780222421784520.post-24309090930904064422013-02-22T21:59:40.405-08:002013-02-22T21:59:40.405-08:00I don't think that there is any way that the m...I don't think that there is any way that the mind can reconcile the death of a child. I think it's too primal. Too animal. I try to talk myself into and out of all kinds of things, but there is something so deep in my brain that just rages at not having my son here. I often find myself totally confused, and it's because I don't have an 18 month old around that I'm supposed to keep my eyes on all of the time. Your anger is totally justified. I don't think that we're programmed to handle a loss like this. <br /><br />Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01955054876521178314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5262780222421784520.post-14721968818730840302013-02-22T18:29:03.960-08:002013-02-22T18:29:03.960-08:00I think that's one of the most frustrating thi...I think that's one of the most frustrating things about trying to wrap your head around all this - there's just no resolution. I don't talk about the baby I miscarried (my last pregnancy) nearly as often as I do Cale. But that due date is coming up and I know it will make me grieve for all that should have been.<br /><br />So glad you have a friend you can to relate to who understands your pain.... Just hate that you do understand each other.Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00101380791416834049noreply@blogger.com