tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5262780222421784520.post7968583530720190913..comments2023-07-16T02:00:55.966-07:00Comments on Joy and Sorrow, Intertwined.: Two Years With Her, Without HimJoyAndSorrowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03923776278331956351noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5262780222421784520.post-67024406205218243672012-12-31T06:33:04.552-08:002012-12-31T06:33:04.552-08:00The last part made me tear up because its so true ...The last part made me tear up because its so true and I can relate all too well :(Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17299291388779882327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5262780222421784520.post-8748529897149297382012-12-30T08:29:05.760-08:002012-12-30T08:29:05.760-08:00I've said the same to people - no matter what ...I've said the same to people - no matter what we do, it's never enough. We'll never get to do what we wanted and dreamed to do for our children. And so, no matter what do, it will never feel like enough. I'm sorry that people continue to disappoint, but glad you have positive people in your life to focus on. I hope the complex emotions become easier to navigate.Traceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15740221765514338766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5262780222421784520.post-42366808076441270542012-12-29T16:00:45.164-08:002012-12-29T16:00:45.164-08:00i just wanted to send you a hug. I can't imag...i just wanted to send you a hug. I can't imagine what it must be like to be going through a grief like yours. Yes I've lost my baby girl but with twins it's just such a different dynamic to it. much love to youViolethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06095295770648504952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5262780222421784520.post-63111223896214774802012-12-29T05:53:19.891-08:002012-12-29T05:53:19.891-08:00It's good to see you, whenever you feel the ne...It's good to see you, whenever you feel the need to write. My New Normalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03482513767849843084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5262780222421784520.post-86356592995854689732012-12-28T17:32:21.634-08:002012-12-28T17:32:21.634-08:00The best way I can possibly make any of this "...The best way I can possibly make any of this "work" for me is to start weeks ahead of time by writing on FB that it is his birthday approaching... Making it obvious so people basically look like assholes when they DON'T mention it. I dunno, we'll see how it works this year, I'm already super uncomfortable with people with TWO year olds who are writing about how their xmas was magical with their kids, or that they're missing out on dinner because their TWO year old has the flu.. Cry me a friggin' river, kwim? :/<br /><br />I think what Renel wrote is true- we are BOTH happy and incredibly sad, all rolled into one.<br /><br />I'm sorry you were disappointed. He is remembered, Elias is loved.<br /><br />xoxLj82https://www.blogger.com/profile/01067562341189588336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5262780222421784520.post-69348099489014447282012-12-28T16:25:17.667-08:002012-12-28T16:25:17.667-08:00Oh how often you share exactly what I think & ...Oh how often you share exactly what I think & feel!!! I keep up with you whenever you post & I DO care!! My dead child & my rainbow baby ironically share a birthday one year apart. I've gotten good & negative comments on the way we share their birthday, so I feel for you. I will always celebrate BOTH my kiddos on that day no matter what anyone says. But it is disappointing when no one wants to acknowledge them both.Jenn @Treasuring Lifes Blessingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11064643472453403394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5262780222421784520.post-14836821508811816902012-12-28T13:53:40.006-08:002012-12-28T13:53:40.006-08:00I have lost SO many friends and then continue to l...I have lost SO many friends and then continue to lose more after the birth of our second daughter. Sometimes I just feel like saying "fuck you" to everyone and wish I didnt continue to be hurt by the constant fallout even though I know I'm better off without them I still feel hurt. Ugh. <br />2 years. I'm 6 months behind you. Honestly I don't think It's ever going to be better. I miss my daughter just the same even though people seem to forget. One of my latest friendship loss was a woman who was there for me after Camille's death and subsequent pregnancy...than when asking me how I was transitioning to having TWO kids. I reminded her that Harlow was my THIRD child. I said comparing this time to last year it was better because my daughter is alive.... So I was not going to complain about sleepless nights etc... She kind of cut me off and said I know I know and visibly rolled her eyes at me. Fucking bitch. My grief and not bring over by now was clearly annoying to her. Ugh. <br /><br />I've given up trying to be happy OR sad. I am both. All the time. I don't cry all the time but my joy is less gigantic than it would be if my child hadn't died. My children are precious to me and I am amazed by them allllll the time... But I still long for Camille in a way you understand but is difficult to put into words. <br /><br />Grief does change but it doesn't go away<br /><br />This is your blog and your space. Use it for your heart. Itsni e that it can lift weights off your shoulders. <br /><br />2 years is an eternity without your child. <br />XxooRenelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08490888250385942221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5262780222421784520.post-49665824977945841282012-12-28T12:35:35.276-08:002012-12-28T12:35:35.276-08:00I'm sorry people keep disappointing you. It...I'm sorry people keep disappointing you. It's frustrating, but almost impossible for others to place themselves in our shoes. That definitely sucks. :/<br /><br />Nothing we do as parents will ever be enough... I'd give anything, anything.B. Wilson @ Windy {City} Wilsonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17479551028143520755noreply@blogger.com