Saturday, February 11, 2012

The One Sentence Post

Fourteen months out from our loss my husband and I are doing some afternoon shopping when I am stopped by an acquaintance / grade school friend / FB friend who says, "Hi, Lindsay! Where are the babies?" and when I remind her that my son died she says, "Oh, I forgot. I'm sorry."

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  1. Forgot? So it was not an innocent question of someone who just had no clue?? Lindsay, I am so sorry. I cannot imagine how hard that was. ((Hugs))

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  2. I will never forget your Elias

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  3. Must be quite something to "forget" sometng like that, huh?

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  4. oh I think I just threw up in my mouth a little bit. That turns my stomach. I am so sorry you had to hear such hurtful words. JUST HORRIBLY HURTFUL

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  6. Thanks, everybody. I honestly don't even know what to think right now. She asked me twice. The first time I started to say "Well, my daughter is at home..." but then her coworker started talking about something else and interrupted our conversation...And then she asked AGAIN. Like wtf?!!! I feel if she ever KNEW he died, THAT would have been her REMINDER right there, that I was talking about ONE of them being at home. But no. She asked AGAIN.
    Makes me think she was deliberately bringing it up for some reason. Whether to dig for info or to see my reaction, who knows. Delight in my loss and in my pain? I just don't get it. But I didn't give her the satisfaction of either. I gave her no info, and I also gave her no reaction. I didn't even flinch. What did she expect, a big public meltdown? Sorry chick - but you're the one that ended up looking stupid, not me.

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  7. ugh - people are SUCH idiots. I'm so, so sorry.

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  8. I am so sorry....that is just pathetic and rude. I mean especially being on FB she should well know how updated you keep with Elias's rememberance gifts and everything.....Such scum. Hopefully that person is now deleted and erased from your memory and I am sure Elias will pop her one for you...SHEESH!

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  9. Yeah I deleted her. I am so over feeling guilty deleting anybody who isn't there for me or who adds to my pain in any way. I just can't take anymore. This is hard enough to handle without people being jerks on top of it.

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